I am a caregiver and my story is about my husband. I met my husband in 1996 and in April 1999, we married. Five weeks after our marriage, he was racing his BMX bike in the Father's Day weekend race and was placing first in all races. He was in the last race event and this is where the life changing events for us began. He was racing BMX bike (in full protective gear) and was 3/4's of the way around the track in first place. I could not see him on the back stretch of the track, so like usual, I waited to see him surface into sight again. That did not happen. All of the sudden I saw the paramedics, they have on call at the track, running toward that direction. I waited as I saw all of the other riders come up and not my husband. I started to run across the track to where he was at. When I got there, he laid just like a rag doll, unconscious and his face covered in blood. He was bleeding from his nose and mouth. According to the paramedics, he had endo'd his bike and went face first into the next hard, dirt-packed jump at about 2000lbs of force. While he was unconscious while the paramedics were working on him, he stopped breathing. One paramedic yelled to the other paramedic that he needed some piece of medical equipment (sorry, I do not remember what it was called) to create an airway. He began to breath again, on his own, just before they were going to make the airway. He was in ICU for 3 days, unconscious, and then another 3 days in hospital. The brain injury occurred to his frontal and temporal lobes. The hospital released him to me with the generic discharge instructions....I had no idea what was about to occur in my lifl better. That could not be further from the truth. We currently again, are seeking medical attention to get him back on the meds and get some other form of help. He is starting to go down the same road he did right after his injury occurred. It was suggested to me by the wonderful, supportive and (I might add) extremely funny people of the TBI chatroom, that my husband may need anger management. I need to do something as it is getting out of control again. It is not healthy for him nor me nor my own bio daughter. It is not healthy for our marriage....that is wearing thin. I have stuck by him and intend to stick by him. I love him with all my heart. He is such a special man who needs TLC. I am an extremely, exhausted wife, friend and caregiver. I just wish this never happened and I still had the same guy I married that day. We were so happy then. Thanks again to all the wonderful people in the TBI chatroom. You have been a live saver for me.

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