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Just to let everyone know my husband Jeff "sun-dance" Spencer passed away Friday March 10, 2000. U know he and i shared one of the most special kind of loves there is. In the time that we were together we had never fought, or argued. We both had so much love for each other it was unbelievable, i could not have asked for a better husband or father he was wonderful. U know it's so hard to talk about him in past tense i just dont think i will ever get over loosing him like i did, it was just so sudden. But i just wanted to let u all know because we have always considered everyone just like our own family. Thank you all very much for being there for me. Huggs to everyone. He will be sadly missed by us all.
And yes since then i have had the baby. He was born on July 29, 1999 at 6:42 pm. He weighed 8 lbs. 11oz, and he was 20 inches long. We named him Jeffrey Alan, he was named after his Daddy and his uncle. Alan has brought alot of joy to our lives. To watch him and sun-dance together brings tears to my eyes. When Alan looks at his daddy u can see the love he has for his daddy in the way that he looks at him.
Sun-dance was not sure of how he would handle having a new baby with him being tbi, but in my opinion he is a wonderful dad and not only to Alan, but to the other 4 we have, Julie, Josh, Dallas, and Devin. And yes he does change diapers and feeds the baby too. Sun-dance still has his good days and bad days. He still has a hard time dealing with everyday life, but he's a very strong person and he will always have me there to stand behind him.
Well here are a few pictures for everyone to see. Hope u all enjoy them and i will try to keep new pics of the baby on here so his other family gets to see him grow along with us. :)
Thanks Diamond-Girl
Email Kim
Hi my name is Kim Sumler and i would like to tell my story of being with someone that is tbi. I started dating Jeff better known as Sun-dance about a year and a half ago. When we first started dating he didnt tell me that he was tbi. And one day he said i have something to tell you and i dont know how you will feel about me after i tell you.He said there is more wrong with me than just the industrial accident that i had. He said that in 94 he had fallen at home and hit his head and no one found him for 3 days and that he had brain damage from the fall. To look at him from the outside you would think that nothing is wrong with him at all he has no visible scars at all. When he finished telling me about everything that was wrong with him it did not make me feel no different towards him.
I have stood by him through thick and thin and i wouldnt have it any other way. I go with him to all his dr. appts. I have seen him so sick that he couldnt get up off the couch for days. Alot of it's depression and alot of it's caused from stress. Alot of times he says he knows that it bothers me for him to lay around when he's not feeling good and to do nothing. Yes it does bother me not the way that he thinks. When i see him like that it tears my heart out to see him like that.
I love that man with all my heart and there's nothing in this world i wouldnt do for him. I tell him all the time that he is my angel. After all that he's been through he is still here for a reason we may never know why but there is a reason. He has taken my 2 boys in like they are his own and the boys love him just like if he was their dad. He has become a very special part of our lives and i dont know what i would do without him.
I just hope that he realizes what a wonderful man he is tbi or not. I realize everday what a struggle it is for him to deal with everyday life and i just want him to know that i will always be here for him. He has a hard time dealing with his tbi because there is alot that he cant do now that he use to.
I gave him a suprise about 3 1/2 months ago. We found out that we are going to have a baby. He is scared because he dont know how we will deal with it with him being tbi. But i believe the baby will bring alot of joy to his life. I know the boys we have now brings alot of joy to him so i know that a baby will too. Well i just wanted everyone to know that i love my tbi guy. In my eyes he is no different than someone not having a tbi.
I would also like to thank all the people that we have met in the chatroom that has helped us out alot and been there for us.
Kim Sumler
(Diamond-Girl)